DUMB WHITE COW

This Is To The Man Who Followed Me Home

By Danielle Page, October 1, 2014

“Don’t be afraid of me because I’m black.”

You were aware that you were making me extremely uncomfortable. You even said it yourself. But because, in your mind, it was your skin color and not your actions that were to blame for my fear, you felt that this gave you the right to pursue a conversation with me as you continued to breathe down my neck for three long, dimly lit, semi-deserted streets.

Did it cross your mind that having a stranger proceed to follow you home, in the dark, when you’re by yourself, might cause more alarm to me than the color of your skin? Or that having someone walk behind you so closely that you can feel their breath as they tell you to “not be afraid” can be absolutely terrifying?

I’m scared of you for a laundry list of reasons, but none of them include what you check off under “race” on your census. I’m afraid of you because I am completely aware of the ways that you could harm me, and I know that regardless of how hard I fight you, as a man, you’re stronger and have the upper-hand. As you’re saying things in my ear and trying to talk me up, I’m taking note of how many people are on the street right now, and estimating how loud I’d have to yell for my scream to be in earshot of them if you try to pull something. I have one hand in my purse, fumbling around for something that I could use to defend myself. I’m thinking about the shoes I’m wearing, and if I’d be able to sprint away from you in these clumsy flip-flops. I’m wondering if taking my phone out and calling my roommate would be a smart decision — or if it would make you mad enough to snap.

But the one thing that I’m absolutely not focusing on right now is the fact that you’re black. Because danger doesn’t have a color — it has a feeling. Danger feels like a car suddenly stopping short in front of you, like a creak in your house when you know that no ones home, like an odd stranger asking you to help him with something in his trunk. Danger doesn’t look black or white — until it invades your space while you’re alone on an empty street.

How did we get to this place, where you believe that your actions are justified, and that mine are not, solely because of our contrasting colors? Would you have accepted my silence if our skin had looked the same?

I’m not afraid of you because you’re black. I’m scared of you — the person who is much larger than me, who has made a clear choice not to honor the fact that I’m not interested in speaking to you, or any stranger, when I’m walking home by myself. It has nothing to do with the color of your skin.

Danielle Page founded thisisquarterlife.com because she was tired of Googling things like "tricks to assembling Ikea furniture," "how to figure out your 401k," and "can my sister be my plus one at a wedding?" She decided to put all of the information that you need to navigate this awkward phase of adulthood known as quarterlife into one place, and thus, This Is Quarterlife was born. Danielle's work has been featured on Woman’s Day, Your Tango, The New York Times, Thought Catalog and the Huffington Post. She's a proud cat mom of one.

COMMENTS

Sally • "Man who followed me home"? Can you please use trans inclusive language in your article titles? Also, you're a racist. It's only ok to be afraid of straight white men because they have privilege and therefore power. Black people are un-privilaged and therefore cannot do anything wrong, if they do its probably a white guy's fault. You should blame them for this. Get with the program.

Jessica Pena to Sally • You're ignorant.

Danielle Page to Sally • Hey Sally, thanks for taking the time to comment here. I usually leave these alone, as everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I just want to clarify that a) trans inclusive language isn't used here because this is a re-telling of a true story, in which a man followed me home, and b) regardless of race, gender, or orientation, when you're being followed home by someone who tells you to not be afraid because ::insert ANY reason here::, it's a terrifying experience. If this point was lost on you, my apologies.

Katka to Sally • If a white woman had followed her home and freaked her out, she would have written the title as such. Your response is pretty incoherent and by saying that the only people to fear are powerful, white privileged men, you are also racist, and sexist. And I think it's unfair to say that black people are "unprivilaged" (hint: not a word). Perhaps they are marginalized by society, but I live in a community where diversity is celebrated and my black/afro american/caribbean/etc. friends and neighbors would think otherwise of your statement.

Nicholas I to Sally • Good exposition of The Agenda!

Eric T In Tennessee • I'm wondering the circumstances which initiated his following you; was it just some random street encounter, was he someone you'd been conversing with, what was the social situation which might have involved initial contact with this person, etc? A little more detail might have helped minimize jack-tard responses like Sally's.

NameName • I've seen situations like this transpiring in front of me and not known what to do. Or if I should bother. If I come up and say " Excuse me miss, is this man bothering you ? " Then I'll be labeled both a racist and a misogynist faster than my computer can load this page. This ridiculous overly PC culture is so infected with SJW outrage that I'd probably lose my job within a week to the SJW slander machine. So I see stuff like this and I let it slide, Danielle. Because if I dare intervene the potential cost is too high and the reward is non-existent. There is also a 23% chance you're a feminist , who " Don't need a man for anything! " Google Hannah Graham, let that soak in and try to understand what it is about this culture that makes it so otherwise chivalrous and well-intentioned men will NO LONGER intervene. What is it about this culture that makes it okay for a black guy to try and race-guilt his way into your panties while following you home in the dark, putting you in a defensive crouch so severe it actually causes you to question if self-preservation is more important than being called "racist". Why can't you even write an article about this incident without backpedaling in every paragraph to say " I'm not racist. " I'll tell you why, because if you didn't pull your punches this way the SJW's would tar and feather you just like everyone else who refuses to hate themselves for being born white.

Nicholas I to NameName • Re "What is it about this culture that makes it okay for a black guy to try and race-guilt his way into your panties while following you home in the dark, putting you in a defensive crouch so severe it actually causes you to question if self-preservation is more important than being called 'racist'. Why can't you even write an article about this incident without backpedaling in every paragraph to say ' I'm not racist.' " : Because it's a K-dominated culture, with K-domination and anti-White and anti-male propaganda especially perpetuated in the media, schools and courts.

jern • He probably said that because he knew it would make you uncomfortable

Logic101 • Danger doesn't look black or white but it does have a penis.

April Ludgate to Logic101 • preach

Nicholas I to Logic101 • Re "Danger doesn't look black or white but it does have a penis." -- There are no dangerous women? And you call yourself "Logic101"? Because you couldn't get into Logic100? Or were you just being "ironic"? Also, are you actually asserting that violent crime rates have no racial characteristics?

Logic101 to Nicholas I • Actually no, I was asserting that the writer is a hypocrite because she dances carefully through the 'racial profiling' minefield to avoid vitriol yet has no problem with sexist 'gender profiling'. In other words, she/society have no problem with her statement that a man 'made her' feel scared so long as she doesn't say he was a black man. It'd be just as absurd if I provided the world some sexist anecdote from my day about a girl who approached me in my tailored suit, who I told to piss off because I knew she just wanted what was in my wallet.

Nicholas I to Logic101 • Ah, okay. You just graduated to Logic300. Beginning with something like "So, danger..." would make your comment look less like a statement of fact. I'm quite sure that over the years there have been quite a few dead-serious campus posters or student-newspaper-headlines stating "Danger doesn't look black or white but it does have a penis!", so your comment seemed like something many fembots and eunuchs would actually say.

Nicholas I to Logic101 • Daryl Hall, John Oates & Sara Allen: "Nothing is new, I've seen her here before, watching and waiting. She's sitting with you but her eyes are on the door. So many have paid to see what you think you're getting for free. Money's what matters. If you're in it for love, you ain't gonna get too far. Watch out boy, she'll chew you up. She's a man-eater. I wouldn't if I were you, I know what she can do. She's deadly, man, and she could really rip your world apart. The beauty is there but a beast is in the heart."

Mikki Maner • He definitely said that to shift the guilt to you. He knew that he was making you afraid and was intending to do so. By making a statement like that he was justifying his own actions in his mind making it clear that the only reason you should have a problem with him is because you're a racist. He did it to make you think, well shit, if I run or try to get away its because I believe black people are inherently dangerous, and not because this man is clearly threatening. And the worst of it is, here you are on TC explaining yourself.

Nicholas I to Mikki Maner • Re "if I run or try to get away its because I believe black people are inherently dangerous" : Good thinking! Survival is more important than pandering to manipulative and dishonest propaganda.

April Ludgate • That is the thing. Men do these things to MAKE us afraid. It's on purpose. That was some high level manipulation he was trying to pull on you. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Nicholas I • Re: "Don't be afraid of me because I'm black." : Negroes often use the tropes of the "anti-racism" brainwashing psy-ops to get Whites to ignore their own self-protective instincts. This is just another reason why K agit-prop is so dangerous.

So did the Negro stalker then rape you, but you don't want to mention that or report it to the police, because you are afraid of being accused of "racism"?

How many Negro rapings would you have to suffer through before you would be ready to admit that race might just possibly have something to do with it?

What a stupid cow: "the one thing that I’m absolutely not focusing on right now is the fact that you’re black."

Since you go out at night and walk around semi-deserted streets (especially ones in which you are likely to encounter Negro males), then I would normally advise you to get a gun and some weapons training. However, since you are obviously stupid, I dread the thought of you walking around with a gun. You'd probably end up raped by a Negro, and then shooting any White man who came over to help you.

Women like you share the responsibility for all the White women raped (and diseased, and beaten, and murdered) by Negro men. The predatory Negroes themselves, and the anti-White jew-media, and the White women who lack or ignore their survival instincts all play their part; but you, with your pathetic article here, have encouraged predators by confirming their understanding that White women are easy targets. It's funny, in a pathetic way, how you insist that race is irrelevant, but if he raped you and got arrested, then he, his lawyer, and the jew-media would all label you as a racist who takes advantage of "racist stereotypes" to level false accusations against an innocent and oppressed Negro male.

You even have the nerve to address your "letter" to the abusive Negro (as if he cares! -- as if he's going to change his predatory nature!) instead of taking the opportunity to warn other White women not to let Negro men get away with such facile jew-endorsed head games. You are pathetic and disgusting and deserve nothing but contempt.

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